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If you have not read a Guide to my idea of Conscious Parenting, I invite you to find time to do so; this article is a follow-up to my thoughts in that article. Here I give 6 reasons why I will always spare the rod.

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As a parent, I have determined NEVER to spank my son and NEVER to use the “rod” as an avenue for correction. This is in spite of living in a country where smacking your kids to “discipline” or “correct” them is still a norm. Here are 6 reasons why I DON’T buy into the “spare the rod, spoil the child” talk:

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1. I am merely passing on the gift I received from my Dad

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To the day he died, my father never smacked me one moment in all the 17 years that I knew him. He surely had MANY opportunities to give me a good spanking but he chose not to take them AND I STILL CAME OUT A FINE BOY!

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You guys can bear witness; am I not a good boy? 

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This is one of the greatest gifts I ever received from my father. His silence spoke to me more than a rod of correction could ever do.

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As a good steward of the blessings I have received, I want to pass on the same gift to my son and all the children God will bless my life with. I will do the same for all the children of the world; never to raise my hands (and use my words) against these little angels.

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If this is the only reason I had, it would still be enough. But you see, I have many more reasons why I would never “correct” my children with a rod.

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2. It is Cruel, Immoral and Insane to Smack a Child

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I am not quoting any religious text, neither am I quoting any state legislation; I am merely putting across what is supposed to be COMMON SENSE. It is cruel, immoral and insane to spank a child. And please don’t give me that it is an avenue for discipline and correction because IT IS NOT.

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If blood flows in your veins, you will very likely agree with me … not because you have to, but because what i am saying is true. There is NO justification for beating children; it is cruel; it is insane and it is immoral.

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3. Spanking is Demeaning to Children

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In case you have forgotten, children are conscious beings like you; they have feelings; spanking them is demeaning. Never underestimate the scar it leaves on their soul.

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4. Smacking a Child is a quick-fix  for a Parent’s Uncontrolled Anger

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Every time you smack your child, what you are really doing is giving your anger problem a quick-fix at the expense of that INNOCENT boy/girl. You have simply failed to control your anger; what you need a course in anger management!

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Have you seen how “relieved” you feel when you have vented out that anger? But how long does that relief stay? If there is any humanity left in you, I bet you feel a little guilt afterwards… even when you just used words to “cane” your kid.

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5. Conscious Beings DON’T need a ROD for correction

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Children need correction but not one that comes by way of a rod. They should NEVER be trained with a rod. They are conscious beings; and a rod as a tool for correction is NOT worthy of them. The language of the rod is not the language of evolved beings.

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6. Children ARE CHILDREN.

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Children are CHILDREN; you are expecting too much if you expect them to live like your great grand father! You should never hold them accountable for your unrealistic expectations.

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Now, all this is for children. For adults mistreating their kids, I recommend a good spanking; perhaps that may rouse them back to consciousness.

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PS. I have deliberately not included the argument that the rod is ineffective as a means of “correction” BECAUSE  EFFECTIVENESS OR NON-EFFECTIVENESS IS NOT THE ISSUE.